Call him and tell him! It will be easier once you tell him. Then you two can talk about it, and you can tell him how you feel. It’s something that only you two could figure out, but all I can tell you is that you need to tell him. Let me know if you need anything else :)

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Why am I so afraid of rejection? I’m falling for my coworker. Actually falling. I’m 19, and he’s 21. I’ve never been guy crazy, and I’ve had long term relationships (over a year). I’ve never fallen before. And I have no idea how he feels. He’s really shy. We get along so well, and we laugh and joke all the time. He makes fun of me, we are “mean” to each other. He’ll just start telling me details about his family if I know he went home for a weekend or something. We’re always smiling and laughing. He brought me his favorite movie to watch, because he realized I’d never seen it.

But then, he never makes a move. He never touches me, except if our hands slightly touch in passing something. It’s like when he passes me, he makes sure he DOESN’T. And granted, he could just be polite, but I always hear a guy will try to touch you in ANY way if he likes you.

And we never talk outside of work. We’ve texted a couple times, but I know he’s NOT a texting person, nor a FB chat person, etc. We’ve never hung out outside of work. We have time alone when we close, and we’re alone for several hours in the store, but I mean, we’re both professionals.

I’m just dying for him to give me some sign. I know I’m a girl and I over analyze everything I can— but I can’t handle the idea of rejection if I were to ask him to dinner or anything. My last boyfriend cheated on me SEVERAL times, and it was a long, mostly bad relationship. Maybe that’s why I’m so afraid. I know he got out of a two year relationship about a month before he met me, and he was the one who ended it. I’m just afraid of rushing him, or him not liking me and me misinterpreting…I don’t know.

Sorry for rambling.
 I’m just really going insane.  Thanks for your advice, always!

It’s okay, don’t apologize! I know how you feel, I have a terrible fear for rejection. You’ll regret it if you don’t do anything about it though. One day at work when its just you two, ask him what he’s doing that night and if he’s not doing anything important, ask him if he wants to go get something to eat with you. Tell him you think he’s cool but you never get to hang out outside of work. If he does say no, it’s very likely that he’ll be polite and have a reason. It’s nothing to worry about, and I’m sure it’ll work out just fine! If he says no, and doesn’t suggest some other time, just be like, oh okay, maybe some other time. Good luck, and if you need anything else, feel free to ask :)

Tell him that you really want to keep him in your life and still be able to hang out and be friends. If he doesn’t text you back in the middle of a conversation, there’s a reason(whether he’s just bored of texting or busy), so just wait to text him until later. You have to tell him that you want to be good friends, though. :) If you need more, message me :)

Tell your friend that she has no reason to be jealous and that you aren’t replacing her and you still will be just as close with her as you were before. Tell her that the thing that will make your friendship not as good is if she tries to control who you hang out with. If you just talk it out with her, i’m sure things will be fine, and if you need more help, message me again :)

Aww, I’m flattered :)

I love you too!

Considering he talks about her being the worst, maybe just didn’t tell you because he regrets her, so don’t automatically jump to conclusions. Just say, hey, this has just been on my mind, and it’s probably not a big deal, but how come you never told me about this Chelsea girl when you told me all the girls you slept with, but you talked about sleeping with her recently? 

Dont seem defensive or assume anything. Give him the benefit of the doubt, and if you find more sturdy evidence in the future, then maybe confront him again, but be less understanding if you have more evidence.

Hi:) Okay so I’ve been having some issues going on with my best friend.. Basically, I fell for him. And 2 weeks ago, he texted me asking me if I like him, and said we could make a cute couple if we ever go out. He then went on to say that sometimes, he really likes me and sees me as someone he could be with in the future. But a lot of stupid stuff has happened since then. He texted me a couple days later saying he doesn’t like that I get jealous so easily and that he only likes me as a friend. He also told another one of my friends that he doesn’t like me and isn’t attracted to me. I confronted him the next day. He basically told me that he really likes me some days, but some days, I’m just a friend. But he told me that he doesn’t neccesarily want me to move on since he wants me to wait till the day he is 100% sure he has feelings for me. He said he does have some feelings for me but he’s confused. I don’t know what to do. Because I really sometimes just get the urge to like hold his hand or just hug him, but like I don’t want to make things awkward -.- But I really love him and want to wait, but I’m scared that rather than his feelings growing, he’ll simply realize that he doesn’t like me and just leave me. I don’t know what to do because I really crave his attention and just want him to my own but can’t. Help? :S

That sounds terrible to deal with. There isn’t really a right or wrong thing to do in this situation, it’s basically just what you want to do about it. What I think you should do is let things happen naturally. Keep being friends. If you have an urge to hold his hand, hold his hand. If he questions it, tell him it just felt natural and right. If he just keeps continuing to give you mixed signals, it’s probably not worth it to deal with. If you can’t deal with it anymore, tell him you can’t and tell him at that point, he’s just holding you back, and of he can’t make a 100% decision at that point, tell him you’re done and you two can be simply just friends, or if it seems a better option, not friends any more, because even when you love someone, sometimes you need to get away from them because they’re making your life not as great as it should be. If you need more, message me :)

Yes, I do! :)

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Tell your boyfriend that this girl is sketchy and you want her to get the picture and understand that he’s taken now and he no longer has feelings for her. If he doesn’t tell her, just either Facebook message or text her kindly that he’s taken and she should be respectful of that. If she gets defensive or tries to fight with you, tell her that you’re not trying to start anything with her, but it’s annoying to you and your boyfriend and tell her that if she continues to try and argue with you, you’re not going to answer so trying to argue is not worth her time. And follow through. If she’s respectful about it, feel free to message her back but if she’s rude don’t message her back and if she continues to bother you, you can block her or block her number and tel, your boyfriend that she’s being rude to you. I hope I helped and I’m here if you need anything else. :)

I don’t think they do. I’m always concerned of that and one time a guy asked me why he always has to text me first and I told him that I always feel like I’m bothering people or they don’t want to talk to me if they don’t text me first, but he told me that he and most guys prefer to get texted first. It feels to them the same way it feels to a girl when guys text them first. If it a bad time, the guy usually won’t text back or answer, or they’ll tell you it’s a bad time. Just clear it with the guy that if it’s a bad time, he doesn’t have to worry about answering, and you’ll understand. Do NOT say that every time you call a guy or text them first, though. Just say it once and they’ll remember. If you need anything else, feel free to ask :)

Find out something he’s interested in and ask him about it! Guys LOVE it when girls are interested in things they like. If you can’t figure out something he really likes, if he’s wearing a shirt with something on it, like a sports shirt, a band shirt, funny shirt, etc. ask him about that. Those two usually work as good icebreakers. After that,just ask him to do something related to things he likes. Don’t make it something that’s not fun for you though. Like if he likes cars, don’t ask him to fix cars together. But for example, if he has a band t-shirt on, be like, we should go see a local show some time, and ask him for his number so you two can talk about it. From there, just talk to him about things each of you like and then decide something you two could do together that you’d both enjoy and ask him to do that with you and make it a date :) if you need anything else, feel free to ask :)

I believe that, to an extent. Extreme age difference (like 20+ years) just won’t work out because they’re at different stages of life, but to get to the point. It’s not illegal to date, but you can get in trouble if you get caught having sex by authority or by a parent, if they choose to start a lawsuit. So basically, don’t have sex, and if you do, be sure it’s well planned, so you won’t get in trouble. Aside from that, you should work out just fine :) if you need anything else, feel free to ask :)

I don’t really think it’s shallow. It’s natural to want to be accepted n one way or another. It’s hard to make friends, especially in high school. Just be really friendly and outgoing. Sit with people that seem like you want to be friends with at lunch, in class, etc. and just be really friendly, don’t be shy, and talk about things you have in common. Ask them if they want to hang out outside of school. it’s hard to have a sure fire way to make sure to be accepted, but just try to make friends with people who seem cool. If you need more, feel free to ask :)